The Problem With Goal Setting

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— Vishen Lakhiani of Mindvalley Academy asks us,
do we really want to spend our lives pursuing the
factors (“means goals”) which usually lead to
an “end game” of successful enjoyment, or do we want
to cut to the chase, so to speak, and simply enjoy
one (or more) of three, process oriented “ultimate”
or “end” sort of goals which all humans normally
hope for: (experiences, personal growth and/or
contribution to society and your friends
as well.) So choose one or more of three, process
oriented “ultimate” sorts of goals we all desire
and start enjoying life again (with a new summary from,
“Forget About Setting Goals. Focus on This Instead.”)

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The Problem With Goal Setting

MindValley Academy & Vishen Lakhiani:
Redefine Your “Goals” as One of
Three Enjoyable “Processes”

The Daily Walk with Love (link to Home page and blog), updated with new content, August 28, 2020, by Paul Evans. This is a republication, but these ideas should be very helpful to my readers. (with a new summary from “Forget About Setting Goals. Focus on This Instead” at”) Video courtesy of Vishen Lakhiani, MindValley Academy & YouTube. If this post helped you, please share it with your friends.

Hopefully our visitors will enjoy a lot more mindblowing content from MindValley Academy in the future. In this short three minute video, Vishen Lakhiani asks us, do we really want to spend our lives pursuing the factors (“means goals”) which usually lead to an “end game” of successful enjoyment, or do we want to cut to the chase, so to speak, and simply enjoy one of three, process oriented “ultimate” or “end” sort of goals which all humans normally hope for: experiences, personal growth or contribution. This is really “hacking the code” of how most people live, isn’t it? This video and these simple ideas alone have the potential to revolutionize your lives. Featured photograph courtesy of Mind Fuel Daily in a post called “14 Ingredients of personal growth.”

Also see Vishen Lakhiani – The Evolution of Consciousness, The Daily Walk with Love, by Paul Evans.

Means Goals vs. End Goals

Means goals versus end goals is also a problem I come up against all the time on dating websites. I am single and looking and so in the past I have belonged to quite a few of these. But partly it’s a question of the “masks” or “persona’s” society deeply teaches us we must wear at all times. So few people are really just up front genuine, it’s like there’s ten layers of the onion you have to burrow through to get to who the lady really is. And moreover women are scared when you are just upfront and reveal yourself openly to them.

The Ancient Greeks
and Persona’s

The ancient Greeks conceived of this idea of the persona or mask, in their dramas (plays). They conceived of the idea of one’s persona or mask, (as though a personality you present to the public, hiding the real you), and the idea took off in Western culture overall. Nowadays, people often present a public “face” (for work, too) AND a persona they use at home, which is even quite different than who they show themselves to be at work or online, none of which is really who they are. My dad, Dr. Jack Evans, R.I.P., once said to me that in this somewhat sick society, it’s “not just the things themselves, but the appearance of things” which you have to look out for. Political correctness at any price seems to be the current craze, everybody has to be politically correct, follow protocols, hide their real feelings. People think you can’t be open and up front and sincerely, kindly genuine right away or at all, and this is a big part of the evil of the whole Matrix of society. It’s a deeply ingrained feature of Western society, but it’s what keeps us apart and what keeps this society of basically good and decent people from truly loving one another, or even being friendly. Sometimes getting to know “who a person really is” is like peeling away an onion: some people’s real personalities are buried really deep. I myself try to be open and honest at all times, or absolutely whenever possible, and I imagine that may be why my life wasn’t more successful. Sad. I’m a classic rocker from way back, and this discussion reminds me of a song that was big in the late 60’s and 70’s, Five Man Electric Band – Signs (with Lyrics).

Persona’s and Internet Dating
(it’s game playing: are
you “for real”?)

I made a decision long ago to just be who I am…. and I am a little mental and quite poor and I don’t hide the fact, you know? But in our society, being upfront, without a mask, and being kind to everyone CANNOT BE DONE, however evil you may conceive this to be, it just is against our whole cultural tradition. It didn’t used to be more that way, when I was growing up in the 60s and 70s. People were more free, people said hi on the streets just in passing, crime was much less and people with different beliefs got along. (But we can, and should, push the limits a bit, to go ahead and say “hi” to strangers, if you can, to try to really love your neighbor, or at least be kind when you can, don’t you think? Isn’t that what Jesus would want?) I think more of the women at the dating sites are scared off by my upfront honesty than by my limitations. But it would come out anyway and if a person is going to judge another person (against Jesus’ teachings) ultimately it wouldn’t go well in that particular (dating) match, anyway. Yet women find my kind open honesty scary, as well as my openness and transparency, but since I am almost a public figure with this website, that approach also means I have have nothing really to hide. You have to kind of “tip-toe into the truth” about some matters, I realize. My tattoo says “Honest Love” and that’s what you girls say you want… but when I offer that, so far you all run like h*ll in the opposite direction…. I just want to share a little kindness and love, which would give me peace and satisfaction, is that anything to be scared of? And DON’T let money be your morality!! (Girls, I’m at Please feel invited to contact me.

To be honest, I guess “there’s a reason for tradition,” though I do hope that the reason for our personas is more than just the continued empowerment of the rich and powerful over the common man! I am looking for that one in a hundred woman who wants to know who I am and would like a kind, sincere and affectionate guy no matter what his limitations might be. So I am suggesting to you all, be kind, and be upfront and honest, when you can. This alone would change society a lot and make it healthier. And ladies, what is wrong with you, you’d never find a nicer guy if you searched for 100 years! (I guess it’s my poverty and lack of a car.) I am suggesting that the world would be a better place if we were all just a little more kind, sincere, open and honest. Email Paul Evans at and thanks for reading my rambling articles!

NEW: See Forget About Setting Goals. Focus on This Instead. at

Prevailing wisdom claims that the best way to achieve what we want in life—getting into better shape, building a successful business, relaxing more and worrying less, spending more time with friends and family—is to set specific, actionable goals.

For many years, this was how I approached my habits too. Each one was a goal to be reached. I set goals for the grades I wanted to get in school, for the weights I wanted to lift in the gym, for the profits I wanted to earn in business. I succeeded at a few, but I failed at a lot of them. Eventually, I began to realize that my results had very little to do with the goals I set and nearly everything to do with the systems I followed.”

The Daily Bible verse at the Official King James Bible Online for May 4, 2017, date of original publication, was Acts 1:8 — “But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth.

Proverbs 13:7 – There is that maketh himself rich, yet hath nothing:
there is that maketh himself poor, yet hath great riches.
(King James version)

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