The Daily Walk with Love
— UPDATED: My own personal views, following modern Christian theology,
Romans 7:7, and a lifetime of guilt over my sexuality
and desire (call it lust if you will) as a
life-long single man, (but with some experience in sexuality),
written here not as a confession but as a
declaration of what I believe the honest truth
to be (for both men and women). I have strong hopes
that this might help quite a few people.
updated September 19, 2019
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and Human Sexuality
A quick summary of where my life has led me
in terms of my (Christian) beliefs
about lust and human sexuality, guilt over this,
and and attempt to offer up a few “answers”
for those who struggle with this issue.
The Daily Walk with Love (link to the Home page & blog), updated September 19, 2019, by Paul Evans. Video is Enigma – Principles Of Lust: Sadeness / Find Love / Sadeness (Reprise), Enigma VEVO and YouTube — 11:46. Featured photograph of hot babe with an American flag bikiki (Amy Markham) is of unknown origin, included photograph of Brooke Burke courtesy of The Editorialite.
Paul Evans: Edited from my personal Facebook page, which had recently been hacked, with my whole account deleted with all my work there. For that and other problems I have knowing what I know about Facebook, I still opened a new account there a few months ago…. There is nothing out there quite like Facebook. I was very startled and dismayed when I found I have been hacked in this manner, but I suppose if you really, actually tell the truth, there is a cost. This current article about sexuality is how I truly feel and believe and I won’t be a hypocrite about it. It is SHAME about sexuality that brings about “wrongness” over sex. Isn’t THAT when God got angry at Adam and Eve, when they felt shame over their nakedness? Believe me, there are also in this “talk” some words for the wise here, and some liberated common sense, as well. But this article is beyond common sense, it is the result of 38 years of study of comparative religion and a lot of contemplation, guilt and prayer, and also my own three engagements and what I have learned in my own life.
Also see Love and Sex & Dating, recently right here on The Daily Walk with Love. Both that article and the present one are an examination of human sexuality, man’s guilt over that, and perhaps some better ways to think and feel about that.
God give me the words: I want to talk about a problem I believe that really almost all men have, dealing with sexual desire, lust, whatever you wish to call it. I have been single all my life, although engaged three times, and most especially I have felt the strong negative judgment of fundamentalist Christians because I enjoy sexuality and like beautiful women. I feel that this is NORMAL for men, and that fundamentalists, in making a literal reading of the Bible about lust, are missing the boat, that enjoyment of human sexuality is just a normal part of being human, and that this does NOT make us any more or less Christian. See for example Romans 7:7, to paraphrase, “I would not have known sin, had I not known the Law, and I would not have known lust, had I not coveted.” Notice that coveting made the short list of Ten Commandments, lust did not. In other words, in the context of a committed relationship, if a woman offers herself to a man, I feel that it’s entirely appropriate that they both enjoy it all they can. You may realize that my argument coming from Romans 7:7 is more life-affirming (I believe), than is some literal reading and understanding. Ladies and gentleman, my understanding is also common sense.
Fundamentalism & Human Sexuality: There are those fundamentalists who feel that sex is ONLY for making babies, I’ve heard them say so on radio shows. There are those who feel it’s a sin for even a married couple to enjoy each other’s bodies or to enjoy sex. Some (almost radical) fundamentalists say that the germ of a baby is all in the male sperm and that sex just for sex, or that masturbation is tantamount to wholesale murder. I feel this is all absurd, unhealthy, ultimately makes us inhuman and is just plain very wrong. I am very much aware of all the places in the Bible where the Apostle Paul and even Jesus warn against a lustful spirit. I feel Jesus, in fact, did not really say that about lust, and that it was added later by the church. (For example, the church never officially claimed the that Jesus is in fact God until 325 A.D. at the Council of Nicea (the First Eccumenical Council. Before this, church officially claimed no such thing.) I can easily prove to anyone that the Bible is edited over at time. Paul was an old prude Jewish bachelor, apparently. The Bible changes as to its content, and maybe at no time as it did in the first few hundred years of the church, (but even in modern times). For example, in 1909 the Catholic church reduced the number of gifts of the Holy Spirit from 12 to 9, and the New International and New English bibles followed suit. (One of those spiritual gifts which was removed was the gift of “prophecy,’ which some equate with mediumship.) Even the Dead Sea Scrolls as a source are from a highly life-denying sect of Jews who lived lives of deprivation, not because they had to, but because they thought they should. I simply do not trust the words about sexuality and lust which are in the current Bible. If that makes me less of a Christian in many people’s eyes, so be it. I live the basic rules that Jesus taught, and most Christians don’t.
But anyway, I feel the ancient Jews were all hung up and repressed about sex, and that as modern Christians, we do NOT have to enjoy human sexuality any less, AT ALL. Nor will I change my mind, as I am almost 61 and you fundamentalists have hung a lifetime’s guilt on me, FALSELY. I bet Jesus and Mary Magdalene had really good sex, and were likely married, too. (Any Jewish man of 30 spending time with a woman at this period in history had to be married to her, it was de facto.) Of course, lust can be carried too far, obviously, but fundamentalism goes way too far (usually) in the direction of repressing human sexuality. All the same, the Jews were correct to basically prohibit masturbation, and kids, it can over time result in sexual dysfunction (ED). The less often you do that, the better off you will be, although I personally (after a lot of prayer) feel it is no great sin. It just isn’t a very good idea, especially as older folks have just as much desire as we did when younger. And 40- or 60 year old men have just as much desire as you younger folks… There seems to be a nessecity for older folks to “do it” less often. Believe me, but did you realize that over half of baby boomers are now single? As I see it, sex should be only within the context of a lifelong sort of committed relationship, especially oral sex, as much as possible, and this is important. Did you know that now in America one-third of all Americans have Herpes? And there are other, really significant reasons to minimize oral sex. Ignore all that at your own peril. I’m openly discussing this so you don’t make the same mistakes I did. (BTW I am hospital tested STD-free and healed from a couple of old relationships which were totally “wrong.”) And ladies, I’m single and looking, should any of you be interested in a kind and gentle, Christian man. Love, Paul email@example.com. It’s still (I think) a free country. Some whole elements of our country, such as, I believe, the Amish, view lust as just about the worst sin you can do…. Sorry, coveting made the Ten Commandments, lust did not. Just let the ladies let YOU know if they are “interested” in you, don’t be covetting their love and making a lot of advances n your own… That is just wrong.
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See Love and Sex and Dating, The Daily Walk with Love, September 26, 2017, by Paul Evans. It probably needs a rewrite, lol, and it may sound a bit cynical to those who are not familiar with the online dating world, and you need to know about online dating before you make some of the mistakes I made and lessons I have learned.
Please, “‘No More Lonely Nights,’ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rx-tu_T9evw! As for me, I’m basically a simple man: I wouldn’t cheat, and I wouldn’t yell at you, I am sincere, I’d be real affectionate to you, I’m honest and for real, I’d always be home waiting for you, ladies, save me from this hell of loneliness! Paul sailingtokansasgmail.com. The Internet has become such a lonely, unforgiving place. Wouldn’t you like a kind, caring friend?” If so, please send me an email…. In the name of Christ, please ladies, save me from these lonely days and nights, as all my family have died and I have no one. I’m counting on my lady readers: please send me an email.
Enigma – Principles Of Lust: Sadeness /
Find Love / Sadeness (Reprise)
Proverbs 13:7 – There is that maketh himself rich, yet hath nothing:
there is that maketh himself poor, yet hath great riches.
(King James version)
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